One Flaw in Women

Beautiful words and reminder – think you might like it!

Morning Story and Dilbert

Morning Story and Dilbert Vintage Dilbert – November 7, 1991

Women have strengths that amaze men…..IT IS THAT
They bear hardships and they carry burdens,
but they hold happiness, love and joy.

They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy
and laugh when they are nervous.

They fight for what they believe in..
They stand up to injustice.
They don’t take “no” for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution.

They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel
and cheer when their friends get awards.

They are happy when they hear about
a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member,
yet they are strong when they
think there…

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Charming Victoria B.C.

After spending almost ten days in Victoria in British Columbia, Canada, I decided it is one of the best places to have a relaxing vacation.

Victoria, the capital of B.C., is actually on the Vancouver Island not Victoria Island and is famously known as the City of Gardens and, if I may add, the City of Bikers, as 10% of residents bike to work! The city was named after Queen Victoria and was established as a Hudson’s Bay fort in 1843. The first Chinese in Canada settled in Victoria due to the gold rush. Its food scenes are not only British but also very diverse, and locals and visitors enjoy cuisines with the freshest ingredients including seafood, veggie, and fruits.

Although it is on an island and has a population of about 350,000, there are direct flights from its international airport to cities such as Toronto, Calgary, Montreal, Seattle, San Francisco, Las Vegas, Los Cabos and also Cancun. The airport is extremely friendly.  There are more cool facts about the City here.

What I enjoyed the most is its natural, untouched beauty, its relaxing pace, friendly faces as well as its Britishness. I was fortunate enough to stay with my Dad’s high school friend, who lives a 10-minutes walk from woods, park, and beach! Compared to Vancouver, Victoria has milder temperature and less than half of the rain with precipitation falling between November and February. No wonder it is popular with retirees.

Here are a few moments that I have treasured:

Ferry ride (1 hour 40 minutes) from Vancouver to Victoria
Rock and sand at Mount Douglas Beach
Beautiful flowers with the Parliament in the background
The tourists’ favourite – Empress Hotel and the Inner Harbour
Strolling in Downtown
Sunset in the Harbour
Along the Oak Bay Marina
Horse carriages all over roads lining the Inner Harbour
Rural beauty along trails in Mount Douglas Park
Breathtaking Ogden Point Breakwater – 1 mile to the lighthouse at the end – photo credit to Melichard at Tripadvisors.com

  
The Galloping Goose Trail, running on the previous Canadian National Railway, weaves through rutal, urban and wetlands
 
  

The Six Mantras – Art of Communicating

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The subject of communication always fascinates me. In Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh’s latest book, The Art of Communicating, he talks about the 6 Mantras of loving speeches, and I know he is on to something very important – how to keep the door of communication open.

They come in this particular order, and before you say any of the mantras, perform 3 “breathe in, breathe out” to bring calm to yourself:

I am here for you.

Powerful statement to show you are present and you are there with the other person. Or say this to yourself to bring you to the present.

I know you are there, and I am very happy.

Say this after you have practiced the first one. This mantra is important to reaffirm that the presence of the other person means a lot to you, and they will feel they are loved.

I know you suffer, and that is why I am here for you.

When you sense that things are not going well with the other person, rather than trying to fix things for her or him, say this to offer your presence.

I suffer. I want you to know it. I don’t understand why you did or said what you did. So please explain. I need your help.

or

I suffer, please help.

When you get hurt especially by someone you care a lot about, you either suffer silently or get back at the other person. By saying this, you open a dialogue, and you immediately suffer less.

This is a happy moment.

You show the other person how lucky you feel when they are there, and you can enjoy happiness together right here and right now.

You are partly right.

This is the mantra when you are praised through the moon by someone, or when someone criticizes you. They see only a part of you and not the total you. You can use this when you look at other people too. Maybe you become more understanding.

Understanding – Compassion – Connection – Happiness

Look for the Bright Eyes

Next time I do a presentation or if I need a response from a group, and if no one puts up her hand, I will start looking for bright eyes in the audience and solicit a different, more positive response.  From the New York Times article:

He (a Japanese colleague) continued: “In Japan, we don’t make as much direct eye contact as you do in the West. So when you asked if there were any comments, most people were not looking directly at you. But a few people in the group were looking right at you, and their eyes were bright. That indicates that they would be happy to have you call on them.”

We can all try to remember not to use our own lenses to interpret other cultures but to use many dimensions to understand cultural behaviour – to look for the bright eyes in the room.

You can read the fascinating article about cultures here.

Bright eyes

 

(courtesy of Pinterest)

 

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My Favourite Maya Angelou Quotes

It is rare for an individual (who is not a statesman, a country’s president, a religious leader) to receive such out-pour of gratitude, respect, and admiration from all walks of life – young girls, politicians, business people, sportsmen, media, poets, writers, actors/actresses, academia, etc.  She was Maya Angelou, a poet, writer, night-club dancer, singer, honorable doctors, and a true inspiration for many; she died on May 28, 2014.  Maya was invited to write a poem in honour of the 2008 Beijing Olympics – “Amazement Awaits”:

…We are here at the portal of the world we had wished for
At the lintel of the world we most need.
We are here roaring and singing.
We prove that we can not only make peace, we can bring it with us.
With respect for the world and its people,
We can compete passionately without hatred.
With respect for the world and its people,
We can take pride in the achievement of strangers.
With respect for the world and its people,
We can share openly in the success of friends.
Here then is the Amazement
Against the odds of impending war
In the mouth of bloody greed
Human grace and human spirit can still conquer.
Ah … We discover, we ourselves
Are the Amazement which awaits
We are ourselves Amazement.

Do rest in peace.

Here are a celebration of a few of my favourite quotes of hers:

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Maya_Change

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Maya_Courage

Maya_Success

Maya_Love

Maya_Amazing

Want to Know More about the Science of Happiness

I have been on the emailing list of the UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Centre, which combines science and practice to explore the science of a happy and meaningful life –  the roots of happy and compassionate individuals, strong social bonds, and altruistic behavior.

Even better, they are offering a free online course in September to learn about the roots of happiness.  Research suggests that up to 40 percent of happiness depends on our habits and activities, and so happiness is not purely due to genetics. Each week, students in this course will learn a new research-tested practice that fosters social and emotional well-being—and the course will help them track their progress along the way.  What an enlightening course!

If you are interested, you can find more information here.  I am all for it.  Radiate happiness!

Radiance