This is another great writing by one of my favourite writers, Eric Barker.
Essentially, the 3 essence to improve your emotional intelligence are:
1. Learn to recognize emotional granuality.
It is not just this makes me “feel good” or “not feel good.”
2. Learn new words that describe emotions – the Japanese has a word to describe the emotion you feel after you have a bad haircut!
I think talking to more cultures and understand their special vocabulary would really help.
3. Create new emotions – give a name to it.
All of these help your brain to figure out better what situations you are really in and to provide you with more resources or flexibility to cope with them.
Instead of being all panicky about the problem, you might feel cool about it – like the Hong Kong Chinese say: “when the sky falls, treat it like a blanket is covering you” (not always, but sometimes this works!)